tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1962406352738460372024-03-14T18:03:11.278+00:00even Toddlers Need FathersHelping fathers sustain a parental relationship with their child or children through the courts - "To promote a more equal sharing of responsibility for children between mothers and fathers" - Baroness Hale of Richmond, Deputy President Supreme Court, in the author's proceedingsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-196240635273846037.post-88773043871561365532014-08-11T07:03:00.003+01:002014-09-01T23:34:38.656+01:00INTRODUCTION - even Toddlers Need Fathers<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-size: small;"><i><span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;">According to Baroness Hale before she was made Deputy President of the Supreme Court,</span></i></span><span style="font-size: small;"><i><span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"> </span></i></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: small;"><i><span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><a href="http://tenderyearsdoctrine.blogspot.co.uk/p/publication-of-judgments-from-family.html">"The father has a point of view which he wishes to advocate. His Honour Judge Milligan described it as a political point of view, but it is not political in a party-political sense. There are many people who might call it political in the gender</a></span></i><i><span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><a href="http://tenderyearsdoctrine.blogspot.co.uk/p/publication-of-judgments-from-family.html"> </a></span></i><i><span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><a href="http://tenderyearsdoctrine.blogspot.co.uk/p/publication-of-judgments-from-family.html">political-sense for there are many ways in which that word can be used. He has the view that the courts and the law have been too respectful of </a></span></i></span><span style="font-size: small;"><i><span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><a href="http://tenderyearsdoctrine.blogspot.co.uk/p/publication-of-judgments-from-family.html">the relationship between mothers and their children to the detriment of the importance of the relationship between fathers and their children. He argues that one of the purposes of the Children Act 1989 was to redress the balance: to promote a more equal sharing of responsibility for children between mothers and fathers and to promote the maintenance a good relationship as possible between children and each of their parents should, unhappily, their parents not be living together. The father is correct that that was one of the principles behind the Children Act 1989, in which I take a certain amount of pride" (4 February 2003).</a></span></i></span></blockquote>
<span style="font-size: small;"><i><span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 1.4em;"><span class="color_20">However although any father might expect the new 'Family Court' which was introduced by the Children and Families Act 2014 to be impartial and objective </span></span><span style="line-height: 1.4em;"><span class="color_20">there is a psychological theory popular amongst judges and magistrates called the 'Tender Years' doctrine that discriminates in favour of mothers.</span></span></span></i></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: small;"><i><span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 1.4em;">Notwithstanding
the comment made about the author by the Deputy President of the
Supreme Court, His Honour Judge Milligan also said in his family proceedings in the
Southampton County Court,</span></span></i></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: small;"><i><span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><a href="http://tenderyearsdoctrine.blogspot.co.uk/p/publication-of-judgments-from-family.html">"The father is suffering from, in my judgment, some form of mental block over these proceedings. He has a view as to how often he should be seeing his son. He takes that view from his own point of view. I do not accept his suggestion that in that regard he sees these matters from the child's point of view. The father is entitled to a fair share of seeing his son, especially when young, and like many fathers in other cases coming before these courts he has taken a view as to what he considers to be the appropriate amount of contact and has gone through the literature seeking support for such a view and where the literature is against him he dismisses it, as he does, for instance, the guidelines that he says the District Judge relied upon but is quite unable to satisfy me to that effect. Much harm is done where a man believes that he is acting for the best all round but he in fact is promoting his own view of the case. That, in my judgment, is what is happening here. Mr Miller has a fixed view of what ought to be happening. He is disinclined to consider any alternative view"</a><a href="http://tenderyearsdoctrine.blogspot.co.uk/p/publication-of-judgments-from-family.html"> (7 March 1999).</a></span></i></span></blockquote>
<span style="font-size: small;"><i><span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><span class="font_9"><span class="italic">Baroness
Butler-Sloss, a former President of the Family Division now sitting in
the House of Lords, gave an interview in 2014 in which she described how
the 'Tender Years' doctrine operates in private family law; </span></span></span></i></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: small;"><i><span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;">"I
would like to see I must say, mothers who flout contact orders required
to do all sorts of things that don’t actually send her inside. I can
see absolutely no reason why she shouldn’t do community service. I
should like to see her</span></i></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: small;"><i><span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"> penalised in all sorts of inconvenient ways as
long as it doesn’t have any impact on her care of the child. So as long
as</span></i></span><span style="font-size: small;"><i><span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"> the child is over 5 or goes to a</span></i><i><span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"> child minder, then there is no
reason why she shouldn’t be required to go and</span></i></span><span style="font-size: small;"><i><span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"> clean the streets,
whatever it may be. I would make her do something really unpleasant so
that she understands the consequences of this. But to send her to prison
is counter productive, because the child will not want to know the man
who has sent his mother to prison, particularly when she comes about it" (<span class="st"><span class="f">22 May 2014).</span></span></span></i></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: small;"><i><span style="font-family: Verdana,sans-serif;"><span style="line-height: 1.4em;"><span class="color_20">According
to Dr John Bowlby's book 'Maternal Care and Mental Health' (1952) it is
wrong to take a small child from his or her mother and Case Laws mean
judges, like His Honour Judge Milligan, can use this argument to avoid making Shared
Parenting orders and allow fathers only limited access to their
children post separation.</span></span></span></i></span></div>
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